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To My Wedding Guests

Five years ago you celebrated Andres’ and my love when we were married.  Many of you travelled thousands of miles to attend our wedding.  Others overcame the hurdle of the Cuban concept of time and managed to make it to the church in time.  When I walked down the aisle, I was overcome at the sight of all of you, all of that love in one room, which is the reason I smiled ear-to-ear throughout the ceremony.  I had expected to be emotional and solemn, but all I felt when I stepped into the church was joy.

Pure joy.

And it was not just because I was marrying my true love, but because as I walked down that aisle, I was suddenly struck with knowledge that I had always been loved.  Every moment of my life passed in an embrace of love I never fully understood until that moment.

For that, thank you.

I know I sent out dutiful thank you notes as I received our gifts, but I want to express my gratitude once more.  For your presence and your presents.  Many of the gifts we received are a part of our daily lives and I still remember who gave us such-and-such as I whir the food processor, toss the salad and set the table each night.  Other gifts only come out for special occasions and are polished and admired before creating a holiday that is utterly beautiful.

I wonder sometimes if you know how much those gifts mean to us.  When I buy a wedding gift, I scan the registry for my price point, make my selection and forget all about it.  It’s the bride who spends the time painstakingly assembling items that she thinks will make her home lovely, not the actual gift-giver.  And so, in case you have forgotten what you gave us, please know that I have not.

Thank you for your love and for making our home lovely. 

Love,
Rebecca

How to Have an Organized Holiday

I’m making a list and checking it twice.

Actually, it’s more like five lists and I’m checking stuff off everyday.  After a lovely and extended Thanksgiving with houseguests, I turned my attention to Christmas and realized I have a lot to get done.  I absolutely love Christmas and a big part of that is the preparations.  In religious terms this is the season of Advent, a time specifically set aside for Christians to spiritually prepare themselves for the celebration of Christ’s birth.

The spritutual concept of Advent can be applied to the practical preparations neccesary for the holidays as well.  (This applies to all people and all holidays.)  Taking a few moments at the beginning of the month to organize yourself and your family enables a less stressful and more peaceful holiday experience.  Here are a few ideas:

1.  Book all appointments now.

Hair salons and photography studios book up early at this time of year, so make some calls today if you haven’t already.  Think about your timing.  If you are attending a holiday party it might be nice to get your haircut on the morning of the event.  The normal styling and blowout after your service will do double-duty and you’ll look great that evening.  On the other hand, kids sometimes need a week for their hair to settle into a new haircut, so you might plan a photo shoot a bit later.  Check your photo studio’s time frame for ordering prints.  It can be 7-10 days after the initial sitting.  Make sure that works for you, particularly if you are sending framed photos as a gift.

2.  Make several lists: To Do, To Buy and To Make

Take an half and hour to think through what needs to get done this holiday and jot it all down.  Think about parties, gifts and regular household maintenance.  Take another 10 minutes to divide your list.  This will help you plan your errands in an efficient way. 

Maybe a big box store has a great sale on an appliance gift, pick up some party supplies their too as well as extra rolls of toilet paper.  It’s an awful feeling to get stuck in the last minute shopper crowds just because your baby needs diapers.  Planning ahead and making sure you have enough basics to get you through until the new year will save you from that hassle.

Look at your To Make list.  Is it realistic?  This is the time to get any supplies you need because it will take extra time to make them into gifts.  Here are some amazing lemon gift ideas for that sweet, homemade touch.

Don’t forget little details like hemming pants and wrapping gifts for your To Do list.  Understand that this list will be growing as things pop up.  Think ahead and try to do all your dry-cleaning and ironing at the beginning of the month, so you don’t struggle at the last minute.

3.  Save money and time by giving experiences, rather than presents.  

This works especially well for families.  It can be hard to know what children would like and don’t already have.  A gift certificate for an experience they can share could be the coolest thing they receive.  Google attractions near that family for ideas.  I’ve given a whale-watching trip, tickets to a show, admission to a science museums and zoos.  This is the kind of gift that makes memories for a family and is as easy as a phone call or a click for you.

4.  Use technology to find the best deals.

Smart phones have barcode scanners, but a quick Internet search at home may work best, so you can head to the right store initially.  Also google “coupons for_________” before ordering anything online or going to a store.  Almost every retailer is offering some sort of promotion.  Yesterday I needed to get some clothes for the boys and had a gift card to The Children’s Place.  I googled and got 25% of my entire purchase.  I have another coupon for a free sitting fee and 40% off my order at a portrait studio.  It doesn’t take much effort and the savings are great.

5.  Don’t lose sight of value when looking for a deal.

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